Today I'd like to invite you to leave my blog. Yes, leave my blog and go get some outstanding resources elsewhere on the Web.
First, one of the best messages you will ever hear explaining a biblical view of manhood and womanhood is now being offered as a free download. It won't last long, so click over right now to download Dr. Wayne Grudem's stellar message from New Attitude 2004 conference titled, "Men and Women: Similarities and Differences." I'm serious. Not only is a world-class theologian giving this message, Dr. Grudem includes a personal testimony of how he applied these ideas in his own marriage. If you've ever wondered what it looks like in real life for a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church, then listen to this message. When he gave it at New Attitude, Dr. Grudem ran long. As in, he cut into our lunchtime. But did people bolt for the door when he was done? Absolutely not. This group of young adults stood up and gave him a standing ovation. It was that good.
What? Are you still here reading? Didn't you click away yet? Well, if not, that's okay. I have another good resource to mention. This one is for single mothers raising sons--and for any single men lurking on this blog. It's how C.J. and Carolyn Mahaney are training their teenage son in what it means to be a man. Now, if you're a grown man, you might be tempted to dismiss my recommendation because you are long out of your teen years. But I bet you would still find some very challenging ideas there.
One of my favorite excerpts in the series is this one about chivalry:
Chivalry may be disregarded in our culture, but it receives ongoing attention in our home. That’s because one way to show oneself a man is to be courteous and considerate toward women.
With a mom and three sisters, Chad gets oodles of opportunities to practice chivalrous behavior. And I must say he displays consistent courtesy toward his mom. However, he still prefers the role of “annoying little brother” over the role of a “chivalrous knight” when it comes to his three sisters. CJ and I are working on that!
Here is how we are attempting to teach Chad to show honor to a woman:
Open her doors
Stand when she enters the room
Pull out her chair
Give up your seat for her
Carry heavy objects for her
Retrieve dropped items for her
"Stand when she enters the room?!" Yes. That's one gentlemanly courtesy with many wonderful benefits. For one, conversation usually pauses for this to happen, which is a gracious way to acknowledge a woman's presence. I know this firsthand because the men I work with do this nearly every day as I enter the morning meeting. It began when my boss, Pat Ennis, started the practice and soon the rest of the men followed. Admittedly, it can feel awkward at first. And sometimes I want to giggle because of the mad scramble. But you know what? Each time it happens it reminds me that I am a woman in the presence of men--and that there are implications for this in our assembling. Instead of being tempted to act like one of the guys, this simple courtesy reminds me that God made me to be different in being a woman. Not lesser than, just different.
I have another friend, Larry, who has been faithful to do this for years. Whenever the roaming horde of singles amasses at an area restaurant after church, he consistently stands to greet the women as they join the table. What a blessing it is to have your arrival acknowledged in this way! It's not romantic, but it is meaningful and refreshing in a season of extended singleness to have a man notice femininity in this simple way.
The series tackles these topics:
Bye, bye now! Go get those gems and enjoy!