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December 20, 2011



Such a beautiful post, Carolyn. Thank you!


Love this, Carolyn! I can relate. It seems that my singleness is even more pronounced during the holidays when the Christmas cards with family photos start coming in. It's yet another Christmas spent alone. Yet, in my loneliness, I am more aware of others who are in a similar place. I've also been asking God what He wants me to do with this...


Singleness at Christmas can be hard....but I think, like you pointed out, its how you focus on it. My friend confessed to me that the time she feels most single during the holidays is when she is with her family. I feel the same way. So, I limit my time with my family. I spend a few days, but also make sure to enjoy the fun things I can do because I am single -- more parties, attending various church's Christmas cantatas, etc etc. Also, focusing on those who hurt is a great way to get your mind off yourself.

Also, I take time to mourn. Like you mentioned, there is always a day when I am home that I cry in the shower or "take a nap" I allow myself to feel the pain and feel God's comfort, then I dust myself off and worship. Pretending that I don't ache and long isn't the answer...feeling that ache and then using it to point me to my Savior is so much better.

As always, I am encouraged by your posts.


Thank you so much for this post! Christmas is always hard for one of my family members due to unmet expectations. I think I will share your blog post with her.

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